Exactly what i was thinking but didn't want to say it out loud. No teenager allows their little sister with a new license to drive a car they worked their butts off for. I imagine that if it was the Mom or Dads car, they would find a way to replace it.
My first car was $500, purchased in like 2003, so it's not like I'm 80 years old. It was a tremendous piece of shit. Dodge Spirit if you're interested.
I worked my ass off to afford that dump, and never let my siblings drive it.
My younger sibling saved up a ton of money starting when he was 14 by rebuilding lawn mowers and small outboard engines. By the time they were 16, they bought a decent little pickup truck. They never hesitated to let me drive it, and thinking about this now makes me so grateful to them for allowing me to learn from that at the age of 18. In my 30s now, and I feel that experience really was the foundation for the giving attitude I try to maintain.
....I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt but you are saying you WERE an entitled and enabled brat?
I am aware what comment you were trolling (lol I typed replying buy it autocorrected to trolling and damn Samsung keyboard you aren't wrong on that one). I am literate. You however cannot seem to comprehend that being hyper literal is unhelpful, or that the situation being explained has the subcontext of "no teenager who grew up being the non favorite child with an enabled brat sibling"
But I dunno, maybe you aren't lying to correct me?
Im saying I was entitled favorite child yes. My older sister didn't hold it against me though and in this case yes she would still let me drive her car. She had complaints to my parents and I about not doing my share of the work (worked on it after high school) but that was separate from her feeling like I should have access to a car as well if she wasn't using it
I'm getting the feeling you aren't the same level of destructive that Corey's reaction suggests.
Not doing the same amount of chores and getting away with it is not the same level of actually abusive favoritism going on in some households, and bless you for not being able to see/read that in the situation described. For my own experience with my entitled younger sister, she continued to break my things and disrespect me and my physical space into our 20s. Is that what you're doing?
That’s not true. Just because you wouldn’t, does not mean others wouldn’t. When I was 18 I bought a brand new car (I started working at 14 and saved up). Not only would I have let my sister drive it when she got her license, I helped teach her how to drive in it. I also let my cousins first time behind a wheel be in that car. However, I know the ramifications of letting someone use my car and if something had happened it was on me.
Eh, she could be mad at them for not holding the younger daughter accountable. 16 with ADHD, she can get her ass to work a part time job and help pay. I believe they should hold her accountable.
I was simply replying to the above commenter stating that “no teenager allows their little sister with a new license to drive a car they worked their butts off for.”
I’m not saying it wasn’t what happened just that not all teenagers are that selfish. Without knowing all the info, then we just don’t really know. Was the accident her fault? Did a driver hit her? Did her parents make her share the car or did she just let her use it on her own?
However, she can definitely work with ADHD, if she is at fault, that shouldn’t stop her from working and helping.
I'm just saying as an elder sister to a coddled younger sister, the things I burned with rage the longest about were when I was forced to let my sister use things I had worked to buy and then she ruined them. Then my parents AND my sister would join in this fun game of telling me that I needed to "just deal" with every single new thing of mine she broke, fucked up, lost, or otherwise damaged. The phrase still raises my hackles.
Maybe I'm projecting, or maybe I'm seeing a kindred spirit in Casey.
I had a similar situation with one of my younger sisters…my mom always protected her, and made me share what I had-and she always broke whatever I had to share
I can definitely see that. However there are also lots of teens that don’t understand the consequences of their actions or decisions and also get pissed off, when a choice they made is bad. I mean we aren’t talking about a blouse or jeans or anything. This is what I am assuming is a multi thousand dollar car. So she could be pissed regardless.
It’s always hard judging something without knowing the whole story.
The ADHD is not an excuse, but you can't blanket statement that "no" teenager would let their sibling drive their car. When I started driving, it was my parents' 1996 Toyota Corolla - which I desperately wanted to buy from them. I worked for two and a half years and ultimately gave my parents $4000 for that car, rather than save for even longer and not have a car at all - and one of the conditions was that when my younger brother got his learner's permit I (being two years older than him) had to let him drive "my" car to and from school every day. We alternated who was driving - one week I would drive to school and he would drive us home, and the next week we would switch. This lasted until my brother earned enough at his after-school job to pay my parents $4000 for the 1997 Kia Sportage they ended up buying used for him so that it would be fair to both of us.
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u/RichAstronaut 5d ago
Exactly what i was thinking but didn't want to say it out loud. No teenager allows their little sister with a new license to drive a car they worked their butts off for. I imagine that if it was the Mom or Dads car, they would find a way to replace it.