Forget white privilege or pretty privilege. What is one unique privilege you have?

[u/Honest-Guy83]

[u/Big_Salamander_6652]

For me, it's having a supportive family that always has my back. Sometimes, it’s the small things that really make a difference.

[u/scientooligist → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

From someone in a dysfunctional family, this one should be higher. It really is an absolute privilege to know you always have support.

[u/S4Waccount → u/scientooligist]

I was literally just talking to my sister about this this evening. Because since I turned 25 I've had really bad anxiety and depression and I'm 34 now. I was just kind of telling her it's so strange cuz I don't know where it came from all of the sudden. Because we generally agree we had a good childhood. And then we started discussing how our dad was one of those you have to walk on eggshells around. Like, he would spank us, but never beat the hell out of us or anything. it was more that he would always look for a reason to be angry and then want to throw an absolute bitch fit over it. You can imagine the "hold the flashlight still" dad turned up to 11.

Plus I had a slew of medical problems that made me had a very irregular adolescence into my young adult life as far as growth and development are concerned. But nothing that now affects my adult life.

Edit: I forgot I'm sterile so I guess it did affect my adult life.

Also after we lost our house in a fire when I was six we moved from living on private land to living in the city. And we became paranoid about fire for a while...and we were pretty poor. We lived in an old broken down trailer, and didn't have insurance on it because my parents hadn't been making the payments.

I'm pretty sure my sister's been going to therapy and she's trying to arm chair psychology me, but I do be a tense mother fucker.

[u/fadedlavender → u/S4Waccount]

Regarding the last part of your comment, tbh if I was going to therapy and started realizing my childhood was worse than I thought and had quite an impact on me, I'd also worry about my siblings and try to mention seeking help to them. I wouldn't pressure them into therapy or anything, I'd just be worried because I love them and wish them the best

[u/Peter_Falcon → u/scientooligist]

same, i'm just working through the problems of abandonment by my mother, and have worked on issues with my father for years. people who have never experienced these issues would never have a clue what it's like. the energy it saps from your life is so over whelming. i'm 54 and just starting to get my life back for myself, i'm having to cut my family off now.

[u/wurwolfsince1998 → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

This is huge.

My parents divorced when I was a toddler; my mom was emotionally absent and my father was actually absent. My father's family dipped out and my extended family on my mom's side hated my father so that dislike extended to me and my sisters. My sisters were all about 10 years older than me so they were out of the house by the time I could really begin to communicate with them. I basically raised myself. Nearly everything I learned I taught myself and once I was in high school I began to resent other people trying to teach me anything. I never went to college.

I often think about how different my life might have been if I'd had any semblance of guidance or support, in school and in every day tasks. I look at people around me that have had that and wonder if they know how lucky they are. I feel like I started behind the 8 ball and have to constantly fight for myself. It's exhausting and demoralizing.

[u/natehen22 → u/wurwolfsince1998]

This is unfathomably similar to my childhood.It was very uncanny readying your comment......

[u/Appropriate_Car6909 → u/wurwolfsince1998]

I’m so sorry to hear this and I thought I had it bad; since you seem to regret not going to college, is there any chance you can do it now? My point is to NEVER give up. I do not know your personal situation but if you can and have time to plan, please consider attending college.

My hugs!

[u/tinnyheron → u/Appropriate_Car6909]

I want to add onto this: community college was a wonderful option for me. low-stakes because I didn't have to go into debt to attend, and most of my classmates were also adults who were trying to finally give college a shot.

[u/Nat1221 → u/tinnyheron]

I'm an old(er) student and have 4 classes left for my degree. Personal challenge to help overcome lies I've told myself over the years.

[u/Evolvingmindset24 → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

Relatable. I always feel terrible when people say they legit have no one. I feel privileged to always have family members that have supported me no matter what. Even though the worst times in life, I’ve never felt alone.

[u/dessertandcheese → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

Yes this is true for me too. Having a safety net to land on means that even though times are bad, I don't need to worry that I'll be out on the streets if ever. Eternally grateful for both my family and the "family" that adopted me 

[u/TurtleSmile1 → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

That is not a small thing.

[u/Moretti123 → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

This is what makes me the most depressed. Knowing I don’t have this. You have quite the privilege mate. Don’t ever take that for granted

[u/I_love_pillows → u/Big_Salamander_6652]

I never knew what positive healthy conversation, how to give praise etc is like til I was much older.

[u/SuzCoffeeBean]

I can draw not bad so if someone’s kid is like “hey can you draw a dog”, I look really cool

[u/unfeatheredbards → u/SuzCoffeeBean]

I once drew a waterfall for a kid: just a slight angle with a tree! She freaked out and thought I was a full on artist lol

[u/t3hgrl → u/unfeatheredbards]

I listen better when I am doing something with my hands so all my university notes were covered in doodles. The thing is I doodle only one pattern. It’s interesting-looking I guess and is complicated enough that it keeps my hands busy, but it’s literally the only thing I draw. Someone who sat next to me in a university seminar and saw me doodling once asked if I’d be available for some graphic design project and I had to tell them no, unless they want it to look like this specific doodle.

[u/Substantial_Cod6566 → u/SuzCoffeeBean]

me too! everyone under, like, 7 thinks im the coolest dude ever

[u/iDontRememberKevin → u/SuzCoffeeBean]

“I can draw not bad” is a strange way to word that.

[u/BelgianBeerGuy → u/iDontRememberKevin]

As someone with an art degree, I know a lot of people that can draw really good.

There are a lot of people (myself included) that tend to downplay their skills.
Especially when it comes to drawing, if you do it daily, surrounded by x-amount of people with the same or better skillset, you know pretty fast there a people better than you, and that you always have room for improvement.

In my case I also studied art history, so you get a lot of influence, and you see a lot of uber great examples of what’s possible.

So yes, compared to someone else, they can draw really good, compared to their peers, they can draw “not bad”.

[u/beefybeefcat → u/BelgianBeerGuy]

"wow that's amazing you should sell your stuff you'd be rich!" No I absolutely wouldn't lol but thank you for the temporary confidence boost 😂

[u/12345_PIZZA]

Not to be a bummer, but cancer privilege. I’m in treatment for Stage IV (and I lost my wife to it last year at a young age). It sucks hard sometimes, but other days it’s not too bad.

Anyways, everyone who knows that about me gives me a lot of grace and patience.

So, I wouldn’t recommend getting cancer, but since I do have it I appreciate that the people in my life tend to give me their best selves. I remind myself to be grateful for that blessing.

[u/cuddlesdotgif → u/12345_PIZZA]

Heyy! I was looking for this one - stage 3, in treatment. I was going to say ‘I realized no one wants to be perceived as being an asshole to a cancer patient’ but the way you phrased it is much more eloquent so I’ll second it instead.

I enjoy being privy to everyone’s ’best selves’ by default.

Edit:: sending hugs and extra zofran your way my friend gl

[u/jpfed → u/cuddlesdotgif]

Hey, I just want both of you to know that if you've been missing out on assholes I can do my best to be a-

wait, damn it, that would just be helping you in a different way!

[u/ClosetIsHalfYarn → u/jpfed]

But then you rescinded your offer, so….

[u/12345_PIZZA → u/cuddlesdotgif]

Thanks! And good luck to you, too. It’s a hard road, but medical science keeps improving and it seems to be something people can live with.

[u/silver_tongued_devil → u/12345_PIZZA]

I have only met one a-hole while having cancer/chemo happen. People are super helpful and want to fix things for you generally. It is difficult to accept help sometimes.

[u/alonghealingjourney → u/12345_PIZZA]

This is a really mature realization of privilege especially when other chronically ill folks often get the worst of those around them and “at least its not cancer,” even with conditions that are more disabling or damaging to quality of life than Stage 4 cancer. Thanks for this validation that there is some privilege in being a disabled person with cancer versus a different condition or illness.

[u/TaterTotLady]

I have “was raised by a loving family” privilege. Who cares about the rat race when you have a mom who gives you hugs that are worth their weight in gold.

[u/Artist850 → u/TaterTotLady]

Cherish that, my friend. My mom gave hugs like that. She died of Covid in 22 and every day I wish I could have just one more big hug.

[u/yellow-snowslide → u/TaterTotLady]

I'm in the process of buying a house. My parents lend me money so I have to lend less from a bank and I can pay them back after the bank.

My mom actually found the place online. And since me and my gf are busy moving my mother also found my gf a suitable car. Next weekend my father will help me move some furniture in a car he borrowed from his job.

[u/PlannerSean]

I have a near total inability to dwell on the past or worry about the future (or even really think about it). One of those people with almost no inner monologue. I am blissfully in the present at almost all times.

Adding an edit: it’s totally great, but a downside is that I have very little ability plan for something long term and work toward that goal. Also, impulse control is tough too. But at least I don’t regret mistakes for very long :-)

[u/hisshissmeow → u/PlannerSean]

I would kill to experience this for even one singular minute of my life

[u/kipobaker → u/hisshissmeow]

Right?? I am anxious about nonexistent scenarios like 90% of the time. So much mental energy spent on imaginary arguments or situations that haven't actually occurred, and probably won't. It's exhausting.

[u/Throwaway-2461 → u/PlannerSean]

Howwwwww? That’s like a superpower, not just a privilege.

[u/littlestrmcloud → u/PlannerSean]

i am so, so jealous. i need this privilege so badly

[u/lotsandlotstosay → u/PlannerSean]

I’m like this too! Had a therapist tell me the most useful terminology for this: time flexible vs time permanent. Time flexible people are just here now. The emotions and thoughts of 5 minutes ago belong to 5 minutes ago. Time permanent people feel things from the past as if they were now, and will feel them in the future.

[u/Royals-2015]

Stable marriage for 25 years that enables us to achieve our goals.

[u/hellomondays → u/Royals-2015]

Wife Guy privilege is pretty great: "I don't give a fuck, I married my *best friend" is the mantra that keeps me going

[u/whitneymak → u/hellomondays]

This is how I feel about my husband. And I know he feels the same way about me. We're un-fucking-stoppable together and still going after 11 years.

I'm stoked you got to find your person.

[u/12345_PIZZA → u/Royals-2015]

It’s such a great feeling when you can honestly not worry about that part of your life AND you have someone you can depend on. Glad you recognize it and lean into it.

[u/imperfectchicken → u/Royals-2015]

We call ourselves a team. We don't have strict roles, but strengths and preferences and could cover for the other in a pinch.

[u/Bradddtheimpaler → u/Royals-2015]

Being a good member on a good team feels awesome.

[u/xstehfuhkneex → u/Royals-2015]

That really IS a huge flex. I’m going through a divorce right now and I can’t help but to constantly think that if I’d just married the right person, how much different my life would be, all the things we could’ve accomplished together, how up we could’ve been. I’m so envious of people who have that. But extremely and genuinely happy for them.

[u/runawaybones]

That my mother went to therapy. May sound strange, but this hardcore benefited me.

[u/silver_tongued_devil → u/runawaybones]

As a person who *wishes a lot* that their mother would go to therapy, I completely understand.

[u/bagmami → u/runawaybones]

As someone who went to therapy in preparation to becoming a mom, this makes me so happy.

[u/koteofir → u/bagmami]

As someone going to therapy now for a possible hypothetical child in the distant future, this makes me so happy.

[u/Mission-Dance-5911]

I’m not hungry or homeless privilege. I may not have much, but it’s enough.

[u/ModeDeDode → u/Mission-Dance-5911]

I feel this! Right there with you.

[u/Nanakatl]

Bilingual privilege - never had trouble finding customer facing jobs.

[u/bwaybabs → u/Nanakatl]

I’m assuming Spanish? At least that’s what everyone assumes. I’m bilingual, too. Conversationally fluent in Russian. Not particularly helpful for me without any other complementary skill that could get me a govt job or something, and not comfortable enough with it for a translator gig (moved to the states with parents as a child.)

[u/luckylimper → u/bwaybabs]

There are bilingual Russian speaking library jobs in my city. Also Somali, Vietnamese, and Chinese. All kinds of jobs use second languages.

[u/Flowertree1 → u/Nanakatl]

One American dude once told me that I'd do amazing with 4 languages in the US haha but sadly no one bats an eye in Europe :(

[u/AwkwardMingo]

My ability to learn & retain my knowledge with minimal effort.

I don't study, I cram if needed, but usually don't need to.

I remember most of what I've been taught, looked up years ago, etc.

I am a random fountain of knowledge and it helps me relate to just about everyone.

[u/Agitated-Cup-2657 → u/AwkwardMingo]

Same here. Unfortunately, I always somehow sound weird and obsessive instead of relatable when I share fun information.

[u/kipobaker → u/Agitated-Cup-2657]

Shared a fun fact randomly while out with friends recently... it was only very, very tangentially related to the actual conversation. Everyone just paused and looked at me, one friend said "...are you autistic?" I was like "I don't know, maybe!"

(OH shit I remember what it was now... they were talking about AA, as in Alcoholics Anonymous, and I said "Aa is a playable word in Scrabble, because it's a type of lava" yikes)

[u/kafkasunbeam → u/kipobaker]

For what is worth, I love that piece of trivia, and I wish my friends were prone to randomly share that kind of things :)

[u/kipobaker → u/kafkasunbeam]

Gargoyles without a spout are actually called "grotesques"!

Kobe Bryant is the only person in history to win both an Oscar and an Olympic Gold Medal!

If you get scurvy badly enough, every scar on your body will re-open as a fresh wound!

Every sweater worn by Mr. Rogers on Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood was knit by his mother!

(These are my favorites)

[u/kafkasunbeam → u/kipobaker]

Some are cute, some are terrifying, some are interesting :) I'll give you another two:

You cannot fold a piece of paper more than 7 times.

In Alien resurrection, the behind the back basketball shot from the middle of the court Ripley does was actually done by Sigourney Weaver with no CGI or any other trick.

[u/NegotiableVeracity9 → u/kipobaker]

Literally every in Hawaii would understand that lol your friends need to travel

[u/AlyssaJMcCarthy → u/AwkwardMingo]

Same. I’m an ideal Trivial Pursuit partner.

[u/NegotiableVeracity9 → u/AlyssaJMcCarthy]

Same here! I have no idea what day it is, but obscure knowledge about dead scientista and facts about wildlife and geography? I'm your gal!

[u/Lugburzum → u/AwkwardMingo]

Ahhh the joy of being the one person people ask weird stuff because "you might know".

[u/bonnieprincebunny → u/Lugburzum]

Some people go to God. Some people go to Google. Some people go to me.

[u/Flowerlamps → u/AwkwardMingo]

This happens to me but for moments, names, faces, dates, random things about people, pictures I have casually seen of them, things they said years ago (even the tone of their voice), what they were wearing, even which perfume, for waiters I have seen only once,… sometimes I know a lot about this but decide to keep in silence because Id look like a creep

[u/Upbeat_Orchid2742 → u/AwkwardMingo]

This is what’s driving Any success I have. Shit just sticks in there 

[u/Fearlessleader85]

Freediver privilege: if i can't breathe for a few minutes, it's not really a problem.

It rarely comes up.

[u/Omfgjustpickaname → u/Fearlessleader85]

“It rarely comes up.” Just like you

[u/OptimisticOctopus8 → u/Fearlessleader85]

I’m not a freediver, but meeting a freediver made me want to learn to hold my breath for a long time. Someday it might save me from dying of smoke inhalation… probably not, but it could happen.

So far, I’ve only used it to avoid terrible smells and aerosolized chemicals. Actually, no, I also used it during the pandemic a few times.

People act like it’s a superpower to be able to use a portapotty without having to breathe.

[u/OdeeSS → u/Fearlessleader85]

I know a common situation this could be useful for

[u/OryxTempel → u/Fearlessleader85]

But hopefully you do. Bubbles up!

[u/yakusokuN8]

College Fund privilege.

I never took out a loan or worried about paying for food or room and board or rent. I took the money from my college fund to pay for it.

The fund was paid for from my parents, other family members, and me putting almost every dollar from Christmas and birthday and summer jobs money.

My dad: "your job is to do well and graduate with a degree. My job is to figure out how to pay for it."

[u/hilvmar → u/yakusokuN8]

I made it through college and law school without any loans. It was a combination of scholarships, summer jobs, and my parents putting money in a savings account for my whole life. It is amazing the difference it made in my life. So many of the people I work with are still paying off student loans.

[u/KBezKa]

I have two actual for-life friends.

[u/Faintly-Painterly → u/KBezKa]

This is highly underrated. I really don't know how I would make friends if I didn't have any, especially as an introverted type person having people who can loop you into new social circles is invaluable.

[u/Onlinereadingismybff → u/KBezKa]

Very rare indeed!

[u/Salt-Calligrapher526 → u/KBezKa]

Same. I've known them for 20 years and it's so nice to have non toxic people who care and have interest in your life. Despite us living in different cities.

[u/Tisroc]

I'm a 40 year old guy with a full head of hair with no grey.

[u/fit_it]

My face is one of those faces a million people seem to have. So many strangers have come up to me, not even asking but sure that I am their friend from grade school they lost touch with. Usually Amanda or Rachel, never my actual name, which I'm glad of.

Anyways, my face is familiar to so many people that people trust me really easily. Making friends has always been a bit easier for me than it seems it is for other people, especially as an adult, because I already look like everyone's friend.

[u/memyselfandi_2024 → u/fit_it]

This happens to me frequently as well. I’m more of an introvert so I try to not engage with people but people are always drawn to me for some reason. It’s bizarre now that I think about it. I’m so exhausted from all of the socializing at the end of my day.

[u/UptownShenanigans]

A nurse could tell a patient exactly what’s going on and what the healthcare plan is, but the patient won’t listen to anything the nurse says unless I show up in my white coat and say the same thing.

Be nice to your nurses

[u/Amelora → u/UptownShenanigans]

I'm the opposite, I always ask my nurse because they seem to be able to explain better and usually have tips and tricks to help.

[u/moffman93 → u/UptownShenanigans]

I've seen that first hand. I had surgery over 2 weeks ago and this pretty young OR nurse was with 2 doctors talking to a PT who was getting ready for surgery. 70+ year old guy. As soon as the doctors left, he kept questioning her and giving her this look like she was too young or incompetent to be in the OR with them.

Meanwhile most of her job in the OR is just to assist and hand the doctor tools.

[u/trans-fused → u/UptownShenanigans]

Nurses are my absolute favorite! I love after surgery starying in hospital and being able to talk and question nurses on things that they're doing. Their jobs, and how long they've been at them. Interesting situations they've been in. They're fuckin top level!

[u/Key-Wolverine-7579]

Good sleeper privilege. I'm so grateful not to have insomnia or be an insanely light sleeper or have sleep apnea or night terrors or sleep walking

[u/amoeba_from_venus → u/Key-Wolverine-7579]

Boy I feel this. Recently started Adderall for ADHD. The first listed side effect was insomnia. When my doctor explained it to me, I said, I wouldn't mind sleeping less.

One month on it, and I'm still sleeping a solid 9 hours at night. At least it keeps me up during the day.

[u/Different-Ad7645 → u/Key-Wolverine-7579]

I have this!! Only realized once I met my husband who sleeps terribly.

[u/JobberStable]

Being 55 and having good teeth and a bright white smile makes me somewhat of a unicorn

[u/wotdafakduh → u/JobberStable]

My dad is 73 and still has all of his teeth. They're naturally yellowy, but like, those are some good ass teeth, so fingers crossed.

[u/Rob1150 → u/wotdafakduh]

ass-teeth

[u/nbeforem → u/JobberStable]

I’m in my 50s and have great teeth. The dentist and hygienists always compliment me. Just good genes. I don’t do anything fancy, just brush, floss, use mouthwash. I’ve never had a cavity or had my wisdom teeth pulled, or had a toothache, etc.

[u/Omfgjustpickaname → u/nbeforem]

“Just brush, floss, use mouthwash” that is considered fancy to a lot of people

[u/Killer-Barbie → u/JobberStable]

I'm 35 and was tickled pink when my dentist complimented my "beautifully healthy wisdom teeth"

[u/littlelady275 → u/JobberStable]

I'm 49 and I have very nice teeth and I'm always complimented on them. I even had a dental hygienist amazed I never had braces.

[u/roskybosky]

Intellect and humor. When I speak, people respect me, and they say I’m funny. ( This sounds so arrogant, but you asked)

[u/Responsible_Cold1072]

I’m a ginger, I get to steal souls

[u/Everybodysbastard → u/Responsible_Cold1072]

'All those souls you still don't have one of your own. I pity you, ginger!"

[u/who_farted_this_time → u/Responsible_Cold1072]

I'm an invisible ginger, it only shows if I grow a beard.

I have a very high threshold for pain.

[u/PowerfuckOverdrive → u/Responsible_Cold1072]

Me too! It's a privilege indeed. My lack of a soul makes me question the very existence of souls at all which makes me feel philosophical as fuck.

[u/mermaidonmars]

Racially ambiguous privilege

[u/JoeViviano → u/mermaidonmars]

I also have this. I call it Beige Privilege. No one knows how to be racist to me, so I get treated as white.

[u/Livelovelast0809010 → u/JoeViviano]

This is actually a thing! I’ve been hired more than a few times as the diversity hire who’s more “beige” than anything else

[u/sikkerhet]

I can get away with a whole lot at work because I'm one of only 2 or 3 people who are so heavily crosstrained.

[u/12345_PIZZA → u/sikkerhet]

It sounds like you’ve got a “let em cook” reputation, where you’ve delivered enough quality over the years that you can approach things how you want and you don’t get micromanaged to death.

[u/sikkerhet → u/12345_PIZZA]

I have (not intentionally) gotten a supervisor fired because when the quality of my work dropped and they asked me why that was I said "here's what X told me to do and how they told me to do it. I tried to explain that this wasn't a good idea for Y and Z reasons but they wouldn't listen. They are ultimately in charge so I did as was required regardless of my personal preferences."

I don't recommend this in every situation, in this case he had created a really blatant safety issue and tried to blame me for it.

[u/GSTLT → u/sikkerhet]

I had a similar situation where the whole business was really dependent on the three of us in my area. It was a small business with two identical work teams (my team and one of the owners team), plus support staff. It’s wasn’t that no one could replace us, but we brought relationships with clients and unity as a group. They were terrified of a chain reaction if one left due to conflict. And they were right to fear that because there were numerous times when it could have happened. But it allowed us to push back and outright say no to things. Then, being the conflict adverse (except with each other) owners that they were they would just let it slide when we didn’t comply. The worry was such that when I did leave to become a SAHP, they asked me to keep it quiet until they talked to the lead in my room because with me leaving, the other assistant moving to part time and nearing retirement, they were worried the lead would decide to move on instead of train a whole new team and if that happened they said they’d probably sell or close. In the end it didn’t happen. I left, my coworker retired, and the lead is trying to rebuild what she lost with me having almost a decade in my position and my coworker 35 years.

[u/Honest-Guy83 → u/sikkerhet]

That’s actually a really nice privilege.

[u/Mother-Barracuda-122 → u/Honest-Guy83]

I've got this too. No one else is capable of my job to the extent I do it. My boss tells a lot of customers this. It's nice to hear. I know I am secure and not going to be fired unless I do something mega stupid like purposely crash a customer's car.

I once had a mental breakdown from non-work related things and told them I quit as I was gonna end my life. they told me that I can't quit and to take all the time I need.

[u/mermaidonmars → u/Mother-Barracuda-122]

Glad you’re still here mother!

[u/Agitated-Cup-2657]

No childhood trauma privilege. My parents were both severely abused by their parents, but they somehow managed to hold back all their generational trauma and avoid putting it on me and my sister. We were the first to have healthy childhoods after so many generations of abuse, and I will be forever grateful that they managed to pull it off.

[u/OceanBlueRose]

I’m fat, so that means it’s very rare I have to deal with unwanted male attention 😂

[u/Kawm26 → u/OceanBlueRose]

I’m fat and no longer worried about being carried off and kidnapped

[u/Cannelope → u/OceanBlueRose]

High five fat sister! I’ve been repelling men since the 80’s. So much extra time for crafts and baking!

[u/Amelora → u/Cannelope]

Me too.

"men don't like women who look like you".

GOOD!

[u/DarkInkPixie → u/OceanBlueRose]

Fat, resting bitch face, I will also immediately be hostile if approached by a stranger 😂😂 We're doing pretty alright

[u/juniperroach → u/OceanBlueRose]

I was going to add getting older at least as a woman. Privileged to be able to have some peace lol

[u/Rob1150]

I work in IT. I haven't bought a desktop, or laptop, in years.

[u/CougarWithDowns → u/Rob1150]

Neither have any of my friends 😂

[u/BlottomanTurk]

I'm fat af, so I don't have to take anything seriously and can instead just make jokes all the time because I got jolly privilege.

[u/I-own-a-shovel]

Being frugal.

We bought an house under our mean in 2016, cleared the whole mortgage in 7 years and are able to work part time instead of full time since then. It’s like being semi retired since we were 32 years old.

[u/OriginEllisNSFW → u/I-own-a-shovel]

Omg that sounds great!!

[u/tootlepootie]

being small. whenever they're looking for volunteers for moving super large and heavy objects i'm always picked last. i get an easier one like holding the doors or elevator open.

[u/Faintly-Painterly → u/tootlepootie]

This is adjacent to not owning a pickup truck privilege 🤣

[u/myutnybrtve]

Tall privilege. People defer to me with leaderships roles. I'm asked questions as if I'm an authority. Toxic masculine types don't mess with me. It's mostly nice. Occasionally isolating.

[u/stormrain65 → u/myutnybrtve]

Same! I sense that people have some sort of "respect" towards me and it's solely based on height, because it starts before I even get to talk lol.

I tend to use it occasionally and enhance it with dressing up a bit and combine it with body language, and I've noticed that people don't mess with me on most circumstances.

Plus I can easily check the top of your hair to spot messed up hair. Or lice 😅

[u/ZombleROK → u/myutnybrtve]

Just being big in general. People don't mess with you.

[u/LordBroccoli32]

I have autism. I’m very unlikely to get drafted

[u/bertch313 → u/LordBroccoli32]

Which is weird since the military loves autistics that aren't diagnosed

[u/twiggy_panda_712]

Since I sew, I’m very good at estimating measurements. I can pretty accurate guess that a half inch looks like because I always use half inch seam allowance. Also I was able to win a “guess how big the moms belly is” game at a baby shower. I looked at her belly and estimated how long I should make my string. I was within a quarter inch of the actual measurement

[u/silver_tongued_devil → u/twiggy_panda_712]

I do this too! My elderly father calls me his level cause I'll stand 10 feet away and be able to see to the inch if something is uneven.

This does bring the frustration of seeing uneven things everywhere with it though.

[u/writer-villain]

Short privilege. I’m 29 and can still fit kids clothes. Small feet privilege. I can buy kids shoes. I’m female so I get all the cute stuff that fits my personality.

[u/dessertandcheese → u/writer-villain]

Oh man. I'm short but my hips can't fit into kids pants. You're so lucky. But yes, definitely the shoes part is cool. 

[u/k9fan → u/writer-villain]

You’ve also got good attitude privilege, because many people in your situation would complain about it! Congrats!

[u/MountainVisible134]

Ugly privilege. I've been a female nurse for 10 years and have never encountered flirting or lascivious comments (at least that I'm aware of). Being fat and dumpy helps.

[u/Tiki985]

Cajun privilege living outside of Louisiana. Everyone thinks everything I cook is amazing (which for the most part it is). But I can seriously f up a dish and they will still say it’s great

[u/mydogisfour]

Non threatening privilege - I don’t seem scary so kids love me 99.99% of the time, however I look like I could easily be messed with - which would be true, but it doesn’t need to be apparent lol

[u/magnum_chungus]

Ambiguously ethnic with impeccable English and well educated privilege.

I’m mixed race (Hispanic/Caucasian) and grew up speaking English primarily and Spanish among friends and half my family. So I was able to date girls that had racist families because I sounded white enough and didn’t look obviously Mexican. They thought I was Italian or Spanish which was European enough for them. But I am also Hispanic enough to fit in with the community. It lets me walk in both worlds pretty easily which is tremendously beneficial since my area has a large Latino population.

[u/Infamous-Platform-33]

I’ve never been shy a moment in my life. I can say anything to anyone at any time.

[u/Horsesrgreat]

I am retired and don’t have to go to work anymore.

[u/TheeHerbalManiac]

Jester’s privilege. I get away with anything whether it be fucking up at work or in any of my relationships because the people around me think I’m so funny. Most of the time, I don’t even tell jokes. I’ll be dead serious and I guess my delivery just makes people laugh. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[u/celestialsexgoddess]

I have middle class privilege. It doesn't matter even if I have less than $100 in my account (which happens because I'm struggling to book jobs and am recently divorced), I never worry about having people treat me poorly because of my class.

And people expect me to be highly educated and thrive in highly intellectual environments. I dropped out of my bachelor's four times due to some difficult circumstances beyond my control. But I eventually graduated, and the fact that I did it at 26 never became an issue. I later scored a diplomatic scholarship to do my master's abroad, and am currently applying for a PhD scholarship at 39.

[u/ResponsibilityAny358]

I'm almost 39 years old and I've never had menstrual cramps, my period, apart from 2 short episodes of hormonal disorder, has always been very easy.

[u/Agitated-Cup-2657 → u/ResponsibilityAny358]

I've never had cramps either, but my bleeding was always ridiculously heavy. I can't tell if it was worth it or not.

[u/OkExplanation2001]

Born and raised with a steady family. Parents didn’t divorce, financially stable and have good values.

[u/GEEZUS_956]

Covered in vitiligo; spotted like a Dalmatian. Means people will go out of their way to not look at me for fear of appearing like they’re staring.

[u/LordoftheFuzzys]

Young-looking privilege. You wouldn't think it's a thing, but I get cheap tickets to the fair, movies, the ferry, all sorts of things. I'm almost 30, don't wear makeup ever, and depending on my outfit alone I can pass for a minor very easily.

Now that I'm older I think it's great, but when I was 23 and being offered a kid's menu at a work lunch with my boss, it was embarrassing as hell.

[u/purposeday]

I have Dutch privilege -> ignoring people in authority who have no skill or intellect.

[u/BisonFabulous9016]

I think my unique privilege is having access to good education and resources. It’s something I know not everyone has, and I try to use it wisely to help others.

[u/DramaticWish5887]

I had 2 amazing parents that taught me valuable morals and a strong will to work for what I want. Grew up with 3 sisters and that also really helped me with my confidence in approaching and talking to women.

[u/beliefinphilosophy]

Photosensitive epilepsy..

"Sorry bro, these bullshit fluorescent lights got to go OFF. Doctor's orders."

[u/pee_shudder]

Support Privilege. I have always worked hard but when I absolutely cannot make ends meet on my own I could ALWAYS call my parents for $$, they have plenty. They have always supported me on some level.

The irony is that I have always worked. I always have a full time job. If i didn’t always work I sincerely don’t think they would help at all.

[u/SparkleAuntie]

Childfree privilege. I get to do what I want.

[u/metal_mace]

Tall trans guy privilege. Even when I had tits, people called me sir.

[u/TheSixofSwords → u/metal_mace]

My wife has the opposite. Short trans girl privilege lol

[u/pinkponyroan]

Ugly privilege. People leave me alone which is great because I don't like people. 

[u/KaleidoscopeNo6578]

Lesbian privilege - no one asks us when we’re going to have kids!

[u/BMoney8600]

I’m an easygoing guy so most people see me as a good person

[u/gifgod416]

Grew up poor privilege. A lot of people in this economy are going without their favorite things, and I never even knew those things.

[u/Abookem]

My parents really love me. I know for a fact my mom would lie on the stand for me if I was on trial for murder or something.

[u/littlelady275]

I always 100% know when I'm being lied to. It could be a family member or a complete stranger, but I always know. Whether I call them out on it or not is a different story. Most of the time, I just don't care enough.

[u/PuddleOfHamster]

My feet read as several sizes smaller than they are. I have perfectly average-sized feet, if not larger than average (NZ size 8, 8.5), but people frequently see my shoes and exclaim at how small they are.

How is this a privilege, you ask? Well, it's not, currently. But once I invent a time machine and travel back to the Victorian era, my (apparently) small feet will be perfect for the beauty standard

Honestly, it's a such a bizarrely specific, recurring issue that I've convinced myself it HAS to come in handy/save my life some day. The universe didn't give me sneaky reality-warping foot size for no reason.

[u/Beginning_Emotion995]

Tall privilege

[u/Sad_Mix_3030]

Born at the right time, I have a good job with experience, a nice house with a reasonable mortgage and three nice but not overpriced cars

[u/dedreo58]

I fall between the cracks, as in, I'm very unnoticeable.
Sucks when I need to be noticed to get something done.
Great when I can pass by and get forgotten easily.

[u/KissingTulip]

Everyone who doesn't know me apologizes for swearing or being crude in front of me. I look like an innocent PTA mom.

In reality, I am NOT an innocent PTA mom. At all.

[u/hiker1628]

I read a lot, always have, and I travel so I can talk to most anyone about something they care about. Not in any detail but enough to get a conversation going.

[u/Existing-Barracuda99]

Non-classifiable, novel privilege. I was raised non-conventionally, in an arts community, which kind defies social class, white, but not-white, not taught to limit myself to religious rules or perform gender roles. Therefore, even though I rarely feel like I fit in anywhere, I am able to associate with a wide variety of social groups and experiences.

[u/Lumpyproletarian]

I can sleep - any time, any place, for as long as I want

[u/WagWoofLove]

I don’t really talk much so I know a lot of secrets. I only tell my best friend but it’s okay because it’s my dog.

[u/Dick-the-Peacock]

Great health insurance. My wife had breast cancer. So many people have their lives and finances destroyed getting treatment, or just don’t get treatment at all. It barely made a dip in our finances because her insurance through work is so damned good. I can’t imagine having to face cancer AND go broke at the same time. She is cancer free now and we didn’t have to sell any kidneys to do it! I feel so grateful, but this should not be a privilege.

[u/Royals-2015]

The biggest one is a quote from Warren Buffet. Winning the ovarian lottery. Meaning, being born in the US.

[u/LeoMarius → u/Royals-2015]

There are several other countries that are better for middle and working class people than the US. The US is more and more being designed for the benefit of billionaires.

[u/humblepaul → u/LeoMarius]

Namely, Scandinavia.

[u/BoggsOfRoggs → u/Royals-2015]

I don’t think many women are winning the ovarian lottery in the US anymore…

[u/thecooliestone]

Born without top wisdom teeth. They had to be pulled and it was way cheaper because I only needed the bottom two.

[u/Left-Profession-1865]

i’m really good at drawing. in high school, i used to doodle constantly on my schoolwork. all my teachers thought it was so obvious that i was going to study art that they never disciplined me for doodling during other lessons. more often than not they stopped by to ask me what i was working on or to compliment me. i’m the only person i know who got away with blatantly not working during class for years. memorising botticellis gets you a long way!

[u/imaginechi_reborn]

A stable family

[u/rektengel]

Tall Privilege as a man. It's real. I am 6'5" and I have seen it my whole life.

[u/bitparity]

I have Asia face. People are always thinking I'm younger than I am. Also they seem to inherently believe I'm genuinely listening to them when I sit quietly and nod.

Also I'm Asian.

[u/AlyssaJMcCarthy]

Being a calm, low-anxiety person.

[u/------__-__-_-__-]

fart privilege

i am the best at farting.

[u/Candid-Variety-5678]

Having a loving family.

[u/_3batshit]

Amazing mom privilege! And having older parents who were financially stable when they had me because they waited.

[u/amoeba_from_venus]

Not exactly a privilege, in fact sometimes a hindrance - I have the opposite of insomnia. I can fall asleep anywhere, anytime, for as long as I want. No I'm not depressed. No, coffee doesn't help. Yes I've seen a doctor for it, blood work came back clean.

Adderall helps, somewhat.

[u/HighLord-Skeletor]

Tall privilege. I can see above everyone at concerts. (but suffer on a flight)

[u/RoyalDiscipline8978]

Old fat white guy privilege. I'm invisible!

[u/Skydome12]

life luck privilege i spose.

like im not some whiz bang big income earner that has made the dream of life but like i still managed to buy a home im not flat maggot broke but not flat out rich just kinda skirting things idk your guess is as good as mine at this stage.

[u/blackforestham3789]

People think I look like a big, dumb moron and kinda treat me like it. It really helps when people underestimate you. I had perfect grades all through school and barely even tried. Other things happened, so I never finished college but I'm not as dumb as people seem to think I am and that helps in certain situations.

[u/mulefire17]

Short privilege. I never have to duck or worry about hitting my head on stuff.

Also, I can ask anyone taller than me anywhere to reach something for me and they do it without question.

[u/Anko_Dango]

People always ask me to carry things for them. Its a privilege to me because I like helping people

[u/sionnachglic]

Southpaw privilege. Our brains light up differently from righties. We are whole brained, and recruit from both hemispheres to accomplish tasks far more than righties do, which gives us several advantages. With physical tasks, we can use our right hand if a task demands it more easily than a righty can use their left for the same task. With cognitive tasks, we use both hemispheres for problem solving. In the past, we had an advantage in hand to hand combat because our opponents were statistically likely to have been trained on righties. Today, our handedness can provide a similar advantage in some sports. Because we using both hemispheres on a regular basis, we recover faster and better from strokes than righties. But it’s all in the minutiae. These things are as discernible as relativistic time dilation on a day to day basis. A good book on this is “Laterality: Exploring the Enigma of Left-Handedness”

[u/First_Joke_5617]

Short privilege. I'm less likely to hit my head on stuff. And it's always a surprise when it happens. 😲

[u/PumpkinsVSfrogs]

I have no family or dependents - the privilege of not being needed or held to anyone is something I’m glad I got so soon in life - everything is my way.

[u/Tiny-Ad-7590]

Man with broad shoulders privilege.

I'm 5'11" which is so close and slightly above average for where I live.

But I've got a slightly wider skeleton than most guys, including most guys taller than me.

Has the advantage when I'm fit of looking buffer than I am, and when I'm a bit overweight (as I am currently) it hides it so I don't look as overweight as I am.

[u/Somm82]

I have very inviting energy. I’ve been called charming. I’m non threatening to other women and I’m extroverted so I tend to make friends easily. People do tend to approach me more than others but it’s kept me relatively safe in school from bullies (for the just part). Authority figures tend to me nicer to me and It’s certainly helped me at work.

[u/Powerful_Tax1587]

Here's one I honestly hadn't thought of before participating in a "check your privilege" exercise: I'm right-handed.

[u/Moretti123]

Animals love me. Every time someone has a pet that’s mean and doesn’t like people, they’re always like YO WTF HOW DID MY EVIL DOG LET YOU PET HIM lol. They think I’m like an angel or something but I’m really not, I think I just have a calm energy

[u/Current_Employer_308]

Chronic-pain-free privilege. I used to have it all at 30, sciatica, back pain, herniated disks, ibs/crohns, the works.

I got my life together, I eat lean and clean and supplement what I cant eat, I weightlift 6 hours a week, my job keeps me active, and as a result, its all gone.

Back pain? Sciatica? Horrible shoulder posture and weak back muscles, pelvic floor and glute imbalances, heavy SERIOUS weightlifting fixed it all. Ibs? I fasted for 2 weeks straight with nothing but water and electrolytes, then introduced food back to my diet literally one at a time for 3 months.

As a result, I know exactly what foods to eat and what to avoid, I know exactly what muscles are hurting and why if I start to feel pain.

Now at 34, I am the healthiest I have ever been in my entire life and its been years since I have felt any even light pain (aside from a stubbed toe here and there cause Im clumsy). It takes daily work and focus, but living pain free is absolutely worth it and my entire life is changed. You arent you when you are in daily horrible pain.